My son leaves for college in a few days. He started off at a community college because of his test score. As he went to school there he was also working part-time. He finished all of his general classes with a respectable GPA, but not as high as his older sister or his dad. My son would drive his dad's car to school and work. He put gas in it, oil, oil changes and helped where he could with repairs. He bought his own clothes and food. That is more than his sister did. My belief on grades and school is that it doesn't matter how well your grades are if you can't manage your money, time, know how to take care of things, put other people first, etc. In other words, common sense. My son has alot of that. During this time at the college he did change his career choice a few times. He finally found a path that is his passion and there is a career for it.
My son had a daily list of things to do. I went through things in his room. He decided what did he want to keep and what did he want to give away. He did this because he saw how his older sister never did any of this and still has things at home because there is no room in her apartment. Whenever she would start to go through things, she would wind up remembering about those items and then thinking maybe she should keep it. Uh, oh, her time is up and she didn't get anything done, and needs to be somewhere. I feel sorry for the man she is going to marry. My son A (I will call him that, my oldest will be M and my youngest will be K) just starting throwing things out and hardly saving anything. One of those days happen to be when I was at work and my husband said to him while we were on the phone "you are not moving out yet, just going off to college; you will be home on breaks". Not sure if that change my sons mind. There were times A wanted us around but we weren't and he was sad. We found other times and I hope that made up for it. He then had to decide what he wanted to bring and put in his room. At this point, he had no roommate yet. We had most of the things the college had said he needed on his check list. I was so excited to help him. His younger sister was helping also. A and K have always been close, they have similar interests.
I see the excitement in my son, the desire to leave home and be his own person, the nervousness, the fear, the hope of making new friends and doing better in his studies. A has been the one to do most of the chores around the house. He is the only grandson on my side of the family. His grandfather passed away five months before he graduated from high school. With A being gone, there is a lot more for K to do and my husband and I. I am excited right now but will be sad once we are back home and the routine of him gone is here. I know for my husband it is different. They have always butted heads on many things. The past two years they have grown closer but still are at odds. I believe for K there will be days that it will be lonely since she is the last child at home. My family says that A is my favorite, at times maybe. But I know M says I pamper K also. My husband M have gotten along better because they view things more similarly.
Move in day is here soon. We will make it through, God always helps us.
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